Day 14 of Love

Newlywed Love

Our friends, Heather & Steven, are newlyweds–they just got married a couple of months ago. My husband and I went up to their new house for the weekend to take photos of them and hang out. I couldn’t resist including them in the project with some photos from the weekend.

Smoochin’ in the Flea Market. ©Katarina Kojic

Name: Steven Duque / Heather Lapham Duque
Profession: CEO & Founder, Momba / Financial Monitoring Control Director, North America
Nationality / Origin. US citizen, from Houston, TX / US citizen from Ashby, MA

Relationship to each other: Husband & Wife
How / where did you meet? When did you meet? We met in October 2010 at a party at the Back Bay Hotel to celebrate the opening of the New American wing of the Museum of Fine Arts, in Boston. Heather had just moved to Boston a few months earlier from NYC. Steven had gone to school in Cambridge at Harvard and had returned to the city after touring with his band, Mount Auburn, cross-country. Heather went to the MFA party with a couple of friends from London who were visiting, and Steven went to the party to meet up with a friend of his before going on to another event elsewhere in the city. When Steven arrived, his friend was chatting with Heather and her friends.
(Heather: Steven made a huge impression on me that night. He was (and is) a star. He is the most attractive person I’ve ever met in my life. I just wanted to be around him.)
(Steven: Going to that party was one of the most fortuitous events of my life. Truth be told, my friend and I initially intended to go to another event at the same hotel, and happened upon the museum party. As soon I met Heather, it was game over. She was and is the most beautiful person I’ve ever met, inside and out.) 

How long have you been together? We’ve been together since 2010, so that’s coming up on 2 years. We knew that we were going to be together for the long run soon after we met.
What is your favorite thing about Steven? That is an impossible question for me – I don’t have one favorite thing about Steven. I love his energy, sweetness, sensitivity, enthusiasm for life, and integrity… just to name a few things that I love about Steven. Steven IS my favorite thing.
What is your favorite thing about Heather? Her heart. She’s one of the most compassionate people I’ve ever met, and her compassion is made even more precious, in my view, by the fact that she’s physically the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. 

Heather & Steven took us to town to check out the local antiques & flea market. ©Katarina Kojic

I really love it when Steven…Dances with me. I’ll dance to anything just to dance with Steven.
I really love it when Heather… Holds me close to her. My heart absolutely melts when I’m close to her. 

Why is Steven important to you? Steven is my soul mate – he is my other half. It took a while for me to finally find him. We had to have a lot of love, faith, and courage, to choose the path we have taken. Our life together is the beginning of a beautiful lifetime journey. I hope that answers the question.
Why is Heather important to you? Because she is who she is and I am who I am. Our paths are inextricably intertwined and only complete when looked at together. 

What does love mean to you? Love is….
Heather: “To love is to be in communion with the other and to discover in the other the spark of God”. During our wedding ceremony, my father read an excerpt from “By the river Piedra I sat down and wept” by Paulo Coelho which included this. I think it is the truest thing I’ve ever read about love.

Steven: I think it’s incredibly difficult to articulate the substance of an ideal or value (especially one as divine as love), but I think I can explain my understanding of what it means to love, from my perspective. To love is to have the courage to believe that there is truth and goodness in the world, that these values supersede all others, and that the partner you’ve chosen is the person who inspires and empowers you to recognize this and continue your pursuit of the ideal. 

With some urging, we got Steven to play some of his songs for us, one he had written especially for Heather. Engin played along on guitar — It was a great night of music and friends! ©Katarina Kojic

Vintage Parents

I fell in love with photography and film thru my dad and my uncle Vipsy’s photographs and 8mm films. They both loved taking photographs and filming their families. And most of the evidence is from the 60s and early 70s. My Dad’s 8mm camera was stolen when I was about 5 or 6, and as the youngest, that means there aren’t very many films with me. Perhaps that is why I feel extra nostalgic toward the look of those early films and photographs. The colors, the clothes, the lifestyle photographs of our family and friends–I love it! I have a box of 8mm film reels I brought back to NY after the sale of my mom and dad’s house. We lost my dad several years ago, so these are truly special memories for us. Big reels in blue metal cylindrical containers and little yellow Kodak boxes which were short films only several minutes in length. Films of us at Christmas, of my sister coming home from the hospital as a baby, or my first time walking… We used to watch them as adults when we were home visiting. We’d put up the d-Lite Projector screen, my dad would thread the film and my mom would make tea and serve something delicious she baked. One of the reels labled “1977 Big Garden Our House”- has a shipping label addressed to my Grandmother (Oma) in Germany. That’s how my parents shared our lives with the family abroad. They would make a film and then send it overseas.  I imagine it went down like this: The film reel arrives in the mail at Oma’s. Instantly, a tea kettle is on the stove and a cake that just happened to be baked already, gets sliced up and put on nice china with small silver dessert forks. Meanwhile, my uncle sets up the projector, feeds the film thru the spool, and the family is called in to gather in the living room. Oma brings in the coffee and cake and there in the living room in Planegg, Germany, they watch my mom and my sisters and me frolicking and picnicking in a huge weedy garden that was the plot of land my parents bought and where my dad would build our house (the one we just sold). My earliest memories begin around that time.

Another box I brought back, is filled with boxes of slides. One of the boxes is of my parents before me and my sisters came along. I never saw, or remember seeing any of these photos. There was one photograph of my parents on their wedding day that sat on the dresser in my parent’s bedroom, old and faded, for as long as I could remember. It was exciting to discover the other photos taken from that day plus a few others. Last night my husband and I devised our own method of projecting them onto the wall so we could photograph them to share. We now have on our wish list, a carousel projector, but we were pretty delighted with how they came out. Other than a slight adjustment to the darkness or lightness of the photograph, these were not retouched and we didn’t blur out anyone on purpose.

Photos to posters

I am very lucky to have a friend as photogenic and fun to shoot as Radhika Vaz. A few years ago, we did a photoshoot together.

The funnest part of the shoot was giving her characters to play to get her into the mood of the photoshoot. For these photos she was channeling a singer, maybe Billy Holiday, who lived in Havana, then moved to Miami around the 1940s. We weren’t concerned with historical accuracy just with having fun and taking photos.

These are some of my favorite photos and what we did with them later to promote Radhika’s Show, Unladylike.   


Radhika doing her own makeup



Original Photo for the poster.



Show Poster                                                                                       Show program and bindi ticket stub

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